Are you compromising your values to obtain love
and attention from a man or woman? I see so many people who have and who are doing this
(I've been there). Do you consider yourself
to be co-dependent? Putting everyone else aside (your kids, family, friends)
while focusing all of your attention on your mate or potential mate?
As I watch the world’s values crumble bit by bit, it hit me. If we begin to compromise to be more like everybody else in order to draw the attention of a mate, what kind of message are we sending to the world as believers in Christ? And what kind of a mate are we really seeking?
By becoming like the world in dress, actions, and words, I believe we are telling the world that our God is not greater than this world. That we've given up on His promises. That He cannot provide what we need when we need it. That we do not trust in His timing.
Looking back at relationships you’ve had, after they’ve ended, have you ever had an “aha” moment? One where you finally see why that relationship ended? Then, have you found yourself in yet another similar relationship, and another, and so on? You will find that you tend to gravitate to what you know, what is "comfortable", even if it is not healthy for you.
What have you compromised to be in a relationship?
Your values?
Your morals?
As I watch the world’s values crumble bit by bit, it hit me. If we begin to compromise to be more like everybody else in order to draw the attention of a mate, what kind of message are we sending to the world as believers in Christ? And what kind of a mate are we really seeking?
By becoming like the world in dress, actions, and words, I believe we are telling the world that our God is not greater than this world. That we've given up on His promises. That He cannot provide what we need when we need it. That we do not trust in His timing.
Looking back at relationships you’ve had, after they’ve ended, have you ever had an “aha” moment? One where you finally see why that relationship ended? Then, have you found yourself in yet another similar relationship, and another, and so on? You will find that you tend to gravitate to what you know, what is "comfortable", even if it is not healthy for you.
What have you compromised to be in a relationship?
Your values?
Your morals?
Your body?
Your virginity?
Your self-worth?
Your virginity?
Your self-worth?
It’s time to stop the madness and the unhealthy relationship cycles. We can come out of these relationships stronger, healthier, and with a goal of working on no longer compromising the very values that have been instilled in us through Jesus Christ. And if you don’t know who you are in Christ, begin today to find out. Pick up a Bible and read, or google Bibles on the internet and look up scripture verses about who you are in Christ. Now's the time, it's not too late!
As the days go on, I’m finding it harder and harder to find those who stand strong in their convictions, strong women in Christ we can lean on, learn from, and emulate. God says if you love me you will keep my commandments (John 14:15). Now I know I fall far from the tree, but I also know God is a loving, forgiving God, and is waiting for each one of us to step out and be salt and light on this earth. To go against the grain. To be different.
I can guarantee you will feel better about yourself and who you are as a person once you respect yourself first and begin to love the person God created you to be. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places or with all the wrong men or women. Stop thinking, "If I do this or that he/she will love me and never leave me".
Giving up the very things you hold true will not give you what you want, but will only lead to more heartbreak, low self-esteem, guilt, and condemnation. I’m speaking to you from life experience.
So...What are you willing to give up to gain?
CHER-Life and live WELL
\o/
Cheryll
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